Sri Aurobindo

Letters of Sri Aurobindo

Volume 2. 1936

Letter ID: 1650

Sri Aurobindo — Nirodbaran Talukdar

June 15, 1936

... You say I could help Y. How can I do so avoiding everything personal? If I can help at all, it is in her literary work – surely not in Sadhana! But there again you doubt. Tell me precisely what I should do – not “if you want to do this, you can do” sort of thing. How is the help to be there?

I put it as something that could be done on certain conditions. These conditions do not exist at present, for neither is free with regard to the other. But the conditions can come into existence.

It is not at all necessary to break off all contact with her, and drastic methods are only necessary in extreme cases. Too much contact has to be avoided at present and it should be kept limited to surface things. The main point is to get yourself inwardly and vitally free – neither vital pull nor impatient repulsion. Understand that they have to be got rid of and quell them down and reject them when they come.