Sri Aurobindo
Letters of Sri Aurobindo
CWSA 35
Departure from the Ashram [20]
I have written to X1 to set right any misunderstanding – if there is really a misunderstanding – about our consent to her going. That consent I consider as forced from me by her own insistence that she could not stay – the pull was too great – she must go. 
I reminded her of what I told her before that the only true way was to stay and fight out the difficulty – the only justification for going would be if her call was more to the family life than to the spiritual life. I have told her that we keep to that and the Mother and I do not like her going – and asked her to reconsider her decision. For it is hers not mine. You know that I dislike any one who has a psychic call going away from here, because it is throwing away their spiritual destiny or at least postponing it. For I don’t suppose X, if she persists in going, will remain always under the illusion of the family bonds – but the risk is there and the postponement is there. Mother has called her tomorrow morning and we will see what she decides.
28 August 1934