Sri Aurobindo
Letters of Sri Aurobindo
Volume I - Part 5
You can explain1 to X that the death of his nephew had nothing 
to do with their [his family members’] obscurities and imperfections – it was part of his own Karma – each person has his own destiny and follows its line; to be in a certain family and with certain relations is only a temporary incident in its course. The sadhak should be free from these attachments and regard these happenings as ordeals to be passed through with equality and faith in the Divine – doing his best for those who are in his charge but not disturbed by results.