Sri Aurobindo
Letters of Sri Aurobindo
Volume IV - Part 2
I cannot quite say how far X is responsible – it is certainly always possible to get a lowering of consciousness from someone who is always gossiping or talking of her fears and difficulties. As for being kind, there is nothing harmful in kindness itself, but there is no reason why you should allow another to invade you with things you don’t want to feel or hear. There is a measure in all things – and besides one should keep oneself inwardly free and not admit that the vital movements of others should be a cause of difficulties – one has enough to do combating one’s own.