Sri Aurobindo
Letters on Himself and the Ashram
The Complete Works of Sri Aurobindo. Volume 35
Help and Guidance
Utility of Correspondence [2]
There is no reason why you should stop writing letters — it is only one kind of letter that is in question and that is not a very good means of contact; you yourself felt the reaction was not favourable. I asked you to write because your need of unburdening the perilous matter in you was very great at the time and, although it did not relieve you at once, it kept me exactly informed of the turns of the fight and helped me to put a certain pressure on the attacking forces at a critical moment. But I do not believe any of these necessities now exists. It is rather a discouragement from within yourself of the source of these movements that is now the need; putting them into words would rather, as I have said, give them more body and substance.



 It is an undoubted fact 
proved by hundreds of instances that for many the exact statement of their 
difficulties to us is the best and often, though not always, an immediate, even 
an instantaneous means of release. This has often been seen by sadhaks not only 
here, but far away, and not only for inner difficulties, but for illness and 
outer pressure of unfavourable circumstances. But for that a certain attitude is 
necessary — either a strong faith in the mind and vital or a habit of reception 
and response in the inner being. Where this habit has been established, I have 
seen it to be almost unfailingly effective, even when the faith was uncertain or 
the outer expression in the mind vague, ignorant or in its form mistaken or 
inaccurate. Moreover, this method succeeds most when the writer can write as a 
witness of his own movements and state them with an exact and almost impartial 
precision as a phenomenon of his nature or the movement of a force affecting him 
from which he seeks release. On the other hand if in writing his vital gets 
seized by the thing he is writing of, and takes up the pen for him,— expressing 
and often supporting doubt, revolt, depression, despair, it becomes a very 
different matter. Even here sometimes the expression acts as a purge; but also 
the statement of the condition may lend energy to the attack at least for the 
moment and may seem to enhance and prolong it, exhausting it by its own violence 
perhaps for the time and so bringing in the end a relief, but at a heavy cost of 
upheaval and turmoil — and at the risk of the recurring decimal movement, 
because the release has come by temporary exhaustion of the attacking force, not 
by rejection and purification through the intervention of the Divine Force with 
the unquestioning assent and support of the sadhak. There has been a confused 
fight, an intervention in a hurly-burly, not a clear alignment of forces — and 
the intervention of the helping force is not felt in the confusion and the 
whirl. This is what used to happen in your crises; the vital in you was deeply 
affected and began supporting and expressing the reasonings of the attacking 
force — in place of a clear observation and expression of the difficulty by the 
vigilant mind laying the state of things in the light for the higher Light and 
Force to act upon it, there was a vehement statement of the case for the 
Opposition.
It is an undoubted fact 
proved by hundreds of instances that for many the exact statement of their 
difficulties to us is the best and often, though not always, an immediate, even 
an instantaneous means of release. This has often been seen by sadhaks not only 
here, but far away, and not only for inner difficulties, but for illness and 
outer pressure of unfavourable circumstances. But for that a certain attitude is 
necessary — either a strong faith in the mind and vital or a habit of reception 
and response in the inner being. Where this habit has been established, I have 
seen it to be almost unfailingly effective, even when the faith was uncertain or 
the outer expression in the mind vague, ignorant or in its form mistaken or 
inaccurate. Moreover, this method succeeds most when the writer can write as a 
witness of his own movements and state them with an exact and almost impartial 
precision as a phenomenon of his nature or the movement of a force affecting him 
from which he seeks release. On the other hand if in writing his vital gets 
seized by the thing he is writing of, and takes up the pen for him,— expressing 
and often supporting doubt, revolt, depression, despair, it becomes a very 
different matter. Even here sometimes the expression acts as a purge; but also 
the statement of the condition may lend energy to the attack at least for the 
moment and may seem to enhance and prolong it, exhausting it by its own violence 
perhaps for the time and so bringing in the end a relief, but at a heavy cost of 
upheaval and turmoil — and at the risk of the recurring decimal movement, 
because the release has come by temporary exhaustion of the attacking force, not 
by rejection and purification through the intervention of the Divine Force with 
the unquestioning assent and support of the sadhak. There has been a confused 
fight, an intervention in a hurly-burly, not a clear alignment of forces — and 
the intervention of the helping force is not felt in the confusion and the 
whirl. This is what used to happen in your crises; the vital in you was deeply 
affected and began supporting and expressing the reasonings of the attacking 
force — in place of a clear observation and expression of the difficulty by the 
vigilant mind laying the state of things in the light for the higher Light and 
Force to act upon it, there was a vehement statement of the case for the 
Opposition. 


 Many sadhaks (even “advanced”) had 
made a habit of this kind of expression of their difficulties and some still do 
it; they cannot even yet understand that it is not the way. At one time it was a 
sort of gospel in the Asram that this was the thing to be done,— I don’t know on 
what ground, for it was never part of my teaching about the Yoga,— but 
experience has shown that it does not work; it lands one in the recurring 
decimal notation, an unending round of struggle. It is quite different from the 
movement of self-opening that succeeds, (here too not in a moment, but still 
sensibly and progressively) and of which those are thinking who insist on 
everything being opened to the Guru so that the help may be more effectively 
there.
Many sadhaks (even “advanced”) had 
made a habit of this kind of expression of their difficulties and some still do 
it; they cannot even yet understand that it is not the way. At one time it was a 
sort of gospel in the Asram that this was the thing to be done,— I don’t know on 
what ground, for it was never part of my teaching about the Yoga,— but 
experience has shown that it does not work; it lands one in the recurring 
decimal notation, an unending round of struggle. It is quite different from the 
movement of self-opening that succeeds, (here too not in a moment, but still 
sensibly and progressively) and of which those are thinking who insist on 
everything being opened to the Guru so that the help may be more effectively 
there.
17 December 1932