Sri Aurobindo
Letters on Himself and the Ashram
The Complete Works of Sri Aurobindo. Volume 35
Human Relations and the Ashram
Family Life and the Ashram [3]



 Write to her that 
permission cannot be given this time. You will also explain to her that she 
cannot come here (permanently) merely because she is the wife of a sadhak 
staying here. All relations of that kind are to cease when one becomes a member 
of the Asram. It is only if one makes progress in the sadhana and is considered 
fit for stay in the Asram that permission can be given.
Write to her that 
permission cannot be given this time. You will also explain to her that she 
cannot come here (permanently) merely because she is the wife of a sadhak 
staying here. All relations of that kind are to cease when one becomes a member 
of the Asram. It is only if one makes progress in the sadhana and is considered 
fit for stay in the Asram that permission can be given.
18 January 1933