Sri Aurobindo
Autobiographical Notes
and Other Writings of Historical Interest
Part Two. Letters of Historical Interest
2.Early Letters on Yoga and the Spiritual Life
1911–1928
To People in India, 1914–1926
Draft of a Letter to Nolini Kanta Gupta1
Dear Nalini,
Quorsum haec incerta? Do you really mean to
perpetrate 
the sexual union dignified by the
name of marriage, or don’t you? Will you, won’t you, will you, won’t you – to
quote the language of the spider to the fly? Whither does all this tend, to
fructuation (I was going to use another word) or fluctuation,– footballing and
floating and flirting as much as exchange of eyes in the delicious brevity of
kanya dekha and the subsequent vast freedom of imagination will give you of
that modern amusement. But all this seems too Robindranathian, too ki jani ki,
to come to a practical conclusion. To weigh in the subtle scales of amorous
thought noses and chins and lips and eyes and the subtleties of expression is no
doubt a charming mathematics, but it soars too much into the region of the
infinite, there is no reason why it should work out into any sum of action.
Saurin’s more concrete and less poetic and philosophic mind seems to have
realised this at an early stage and he wrote asking me whether it was worth
while to marry with our ideas and aims under present social conditions. After
about two months’ absence of cogitation, I have returned a sort of non committal
answer,– that I don’t think it is – very, but it may turn out to be and on the
whole he had better consult his antarātman and act or
not act accordingly.
c. 1919