Sri Aurobindo

Letters of Sri Aurobindo

Volume 4

Letter ID: 1016

Sri Aurobindo — Roy, Dilip Kumar

January 2, 1945

There is no change with regard to sex whatever. Babies may be allowed in the Ashram but the manufacture of babies – there is an industry which has no sanction or license. Married people (that is not new) or families may be living here, but on the old condition of the complete cessation of marital activities. The ban on sex here stands, unchanged by an iota.

Asit and Manju are not sadhaks. Asit is a very good boy, but that is not enough to make a sadhak. There is needed a call, a strong predisposition or a clear and decided will; he has none of these things. Mother found that he was not fit as yet for sadhana and there is nothing sure to build on for the future. So why forbid the marriage? Manju was the better of two alternatives, the other being quite unsuitable from the psychological standpoint. That is all about it.

Naturally, Mother had nothing to do with the other things you speak of. It is hardly possible that anyone could really believe in a change of this kind on such flimsy grounds. But the motives of the human mind are incalculable.

P.S. I think I have forgotten to say that the boy evidently wanted and was even eager to marry – leaving aside any inclination towards Yoga he may have had at one time. This case therefore is quite different from that of someone who wants to do Yoga and yet thinks of marriage – so!